You may be curious about how 1502 kids spoke to us about what they really need. The number represents more than 1500 kids we have spoken to, taught, counselled and cared for in our previous careers as professional school teachers. The other two kids are our own little munchkins who are the world to us. 

In our years as school teachers, we have taught children from 4 to 17 and they don't differ much in what they need from parents to be really happy. It breaks our heart to see so many children growing up really unhappy because their parents don't realise their unfulfilled needs. It breaks our hearts even more when these kids get into trouble, neglect their studies and become really jaded and bitter with life. 

So what do kids really want?

1. Kids want undivided attention from their parents.
School teachers do speak one-on-one with individual students regularly to connect with them. In these sessions, we ask about their personal lives and academic journey. We try to guide them along and be a listening ear to their problems. The CHIEF COMPLAINT when we ask them or talk about family is "my parents don't have time for me". Kids tell us that they don't have anyone to talk to at home. There is a disconnection between parent and child. 

It is paramount that we make time for our kids DAILY. It can be as simple as finding half an hour to sit together and enjoy a snack together. TALK to your kids. This is a time to feel emotionally connected between a human to another. Put your phones away! Talk about life. Talk about a tv show. Talk about anything interesting and laugh a lot. You'll be surprised how much kids thrive on just a little undivided attention from their parents. 

Asking about their homework or nagging at them to do chores do not count as connecting/talking!

This undivided attention will help your child feel grounded, loved, secure and happy!

2. Kids want encouragement/praise
"What is the point of studying so hard?"....
"Cher, (our short-form name every kid calls us by)....nobody cares..."
I often ask myself, why do kids say these things? Why are they so unmotivated and jaded with life? They are only kids! 

The reason came pretty clear to me when I praised a child for his effort and he teared. (He had been failing and managed to get 60% for that assignment). This is a little boy in elementary/primary school. He worked so much harder and felt a lot more motivated for the rest of the year. It was like magic. 

Growing up in an asian society, praise and encouragement are hard to come by. Children are taught to face their tasks with discipline and responsibility because it is their duty. They feel discouraged when they don't do well. The sense of duty doesn't make much sense to them at a tender age. 

Parents must see the power of encouraging words and praises. Words of affirmation is a love language and an emotional need. Praise your children for their effort. Thank them for trying. Encourage them when they struggle.

Say: "I'm proud of you for packing your bag on your own!", "You did a good job clearing the table after dinner!", "I like that you tried so hard to complete the math homework even though you didn't like it!", "If you keep going, you will succeed, don't give up!". It makes a world of a difference to them!

3. Kids want unconditional love
Kids should never be made to feel that they need to merit their parents' love. Being a parent of two, I realise that kids get bored with their toys and things very quickly. They never get sick of feeling wanted and loved. 

Kids want to feel loved even if they have failed an exam. They want to feel loved and wanted even after they have made a mistake or done something to anger their parents. Parents can be upset. Parents can admonish and punish their children. However, the care, concern, attention and encouragement should never come with a condition. It should always be given freely and unconditionally. 

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Last week, we had a rare evening free on a weekday from work and actually had the energy to head out of the house. So on that rare occasion, we took the kids out for a walk at the iconic Marina Bay in Singapore. Debra and I realised that it was the first time we took a stroll along Marina Bay and in Marina Bay Sands together since we got married! 

It was a little adventure for us because we rarely get time to visit a place just to stroll around with no agenda. We are always going somewhere to buy groceries, run errands, shop for supplies, have a family meal and visit someone. We had an awesome time and here are some tips that made our trip great:

HOW TO ENJOY YOUR TIME AT THE BAY
Dress comfortably! You'll soak your clothes with perspiration in the 80-100% humidity and hot 28-30°C evenings (82-86°F) as well as 35°C (95°F) afternoons! Wear shoes that support your feet if you are intending to explore the entire bay. Bring a stroller if you are taking the little ones! Bring along your camera or remember to charge your smart phone so that you can snap away at the picturesque bay. I took all the photos on this post using my Huawei P20 Pro mobile phone without a tripod. 

BUDGET TIPS
1. The food options inside Marina Bay Sands can get quite expensive. If you are able, have your meals at nearby malls such as Marina Square or Suntec City! 

2. Bring your own drinks/water bottles. The Marina Bay Area is a tourist/financial district.  Naturally, the price tags are not that budget friendly. 

3. Take the public transport. Take trains on the Circle Line & Downtown Line to Bayfront Station to directly access Marina Bay sands. 

4. If you are driving, visit on a weekday evening. Park at Singapore Flyer after 6pm for only $2 per entry! 

ROUTE WE TOOK
We started off at Singapore Flyer because Matthias loved looking at the giant Ferris wheel and parking was also cheap. The kids were amazing by the lights and sheer size of the wheel! 

We took a 15 minute walk from the flyer across a small section of the F1 track towards the Youth Olympic park which connects Marina Bay Sands via the Helix Bridge (World’s first curved double helix bridge). Along they way, you'll get to see beautiful cityscapes and Singapore's icons such as the Art/Science Museum, Marina Bay Sands, The Merlion, Fullerton Hotel and the Esplanade. After enjoying the enchanting views of the bay, we spent the rest of our evening in Marina Bay Sands. 

FUN THINGS TO DO

1. The kids will enjoy the Digital Light Canvas display! It is an interactive light canvas display where the screens on the floor respond to your footsteps and touch. The display is accompanied by music and a giant light sculpture above. Since its Christmas time soon, the light sculpture displays a crystal tree. 
Do note they charge S$5 (free for children under 2 years old and FutureWorld: Where art Meets Science ticket holders)

​2. Window shopping in a mall like The Shoppes at Marina Bay Sands is pretty intriguing for young and old. Its a luxury mall and the shops do put in a lot of effort in their shop displays. The kids were surprisingly quiet while we walked around. I guess they were feasting their eyes on all the shiny, glitzy glamour. Matthias the foodie was particularly interested in how the chefs were making dumplings at Ding Tai Fung Restaurant. 

​3. The highlight of the night was a light, music and water show at the event plaza along the promenade! It happens every evening and is free of charge! Do try to get to the event plaza 10 minutes before show time to get a seat because it can get quite crowded. Don't get too close to the front because you can get wet from the fountain spray and the music is pretty loud too. 

Timings
Sunday to Thursday – 8:00pm and 9:00pm
Friday & Saturday – 8:00pm, 9:00pm and 10:00pm

You don't have to be a tourist to enjoy Marina Bay! Best part, you get a relaxing and enchanting night without breaking the bank! 


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WE ARE BACK! Haven't had the chance to blog because I was nursing a bad cough/fever and Debra had to run the business and care for the kids while I recovered. 

We had a rare day off and took the opportunity to head across the causeway to Johor Bahru, Malaysia!

A short background write up for our overseas readers:
Singapore is an Island in South East Asia connected to southern tip of peninsula Malaysia by two bridges. The nearest state to Singapore is Johor. Singapore and Malaysia were British Colonies for more than 140 years. Singapore was briefly a state in Malaysia (1963-1965), was expelled and both countries have been independent nations ever since. However, both countries still have many things in common and one of them is the love for food! 

We love heading across the border into Malaysia as a family. Johor Bahru, the city centre of the state of Johor offers many amazing tasty treats. Somehow in all the development, Malaysia has retained the old charm of street food feeling that Singapore has lost. 

It is the first time since Gwyneth was born that we set out to have food outside of the malls. She now has some teeth and takes to adult food pretty well. We decided to try some Wonton Noodles! 

Wonton/Wanton/Wantan Noodles are basically meat dumpling + noodles + Char Siew (roasted pork) and leafy vegetables in a tasty broth/sauce. The name wonton means dumpling in Cantonese. 

You can find a long list of awesome Wonton noodle shops in Johor Bahru HERE
We decided on Restoran Yit Foh Wanton Mee because we were all really hungry and didn't want to drive for too long after crossing the border.

Address: 153, Jalan Harimau, Taman Century, 80250 Johor Bahru, Johor, Malaysia 
Opens: 830am to 4am daily
Closed: Wednesdays

We ordered 3 plates of Wonton Noodles in large, medium and small portions. We also ordered a size dish of deep fried wontons (dumplings) and two drinks. It only cost us RM30 (S$10, USD7.20) for the entire meal!  If you are visiting Malaysia, you must try street/shop house food away from the huge malls and touristy places! These are the real gems of local cuisine. 

Verdict:

Noodles: Springy, bouncy noodles that were light and very delicious!
Char Siew (Roasted Pork): The meat was soft and tasty! It did however lack the deep roast flavours 
Wonton: The dumpling skin and meat both tasted soft and succulent. Pair it with some pickled green chili to get that awesome flavour punch! 
Fried Wonton: Crispy and tasted as good as the wonton in the soup! Pair it with the red chili sauce to get some spicy dumpling kick! 

You can choose if you want the noodles spicy or not. South-East Asians typically love our food spicy! Our kids have not developed that love for spiciness in their food and so we got them the non-spicy version. 

Matthias and Gwyneth thoroughly enjoyed their meal and that made us really happy too! It felt great to be away from usual crowded air-conditioned malls! No fancy stuff, just a simple hearty, tasty and affordable meal. 

We are already looking forward to the next trip across the causeway!


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