As a father of two young children, I felt utterly miserable after watching this video seeing how children at a young age have to feel bad for circumstances beyond their control.
It hurts my heart to see that children grow up so insensitive to the struggles of others. It hurts me to see that children form a broken self-esteem, an invisible barrier among themselves and that deep pain arising from an enforced label of inadequacy.
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Hardwork = Reward
Laziness = No reward
It would be unfair to say that these concepts are totally untrue. We do need to work hard and strive to be our best so that we can achieve. If we are idle all day long, it is unlikely that we get to reap anything.
It is also unwise to stop here.
When we neglect helping our children understand the topic of privilege and equality, their world will be a darker place. They will live in a darker, more unequal and unstable world.
By the time children are of school-going age (Around 6), they should be able to understand the privilege and equality with these simple illustrations...
The 5 finger analogy
Just guide them to look at their hands. As nature intended it to be, not everyone is born equal. Some are short, some are tall, some are weak, some are strong. It is important to recognise human diversity. No one wants to lose a finger regardless of its strength or function. Similarly, we want to help our children grow their empathy and value everyone equally. We show respect to everyone around us whether they are a janitor, professor or banker. Before a child can understand the complexity of equality in its entirety, they must understand the equal value of all human beings regardless of their ability, race, religion, class or sexual orientation.
We all start the race on a different starting line
This is a fact of life. Not everyone is born with equal opportunity. Some have more than others. A child born in a poor family will have fewer opportunities. It is a fact but it doesn't mean that they bear the blame for having less.
Help your child see that this rat race is unfair.
Start a race with them, start off close to the finishing point while they start far behind. It will definitely illicit a huge "NOT FAIR!!!" response. Some people are born with less, some others face greater struggles in life and even if they dress different from us, speak different from us, we shouldn't look down on them.
Lastly, I really love this meme I saw. We should all teach our children this...
The only time you look into someone else's bowl is to check if they have enough.
We have far too many people who compare, act all superior and are self-entitled. If we start teaching our children about privilege and equality early, we have a really good chance of making this world a better place.
Vincent & Debra Kwan, Founders of Hiro & Jack and stay-at-home parents with the odd life.