I was doing the dishes and listening to some relaxing jazz music...and apparently that made me contemplate on my mortality. I wondered, if I died, what would my young son remember about me? (Gwyn is probably too young to remember)
It is so important to number our days and contemplate our mortality in our busy busy lives. It helps us reflect on what is the most important things in life. What are we living for? Are we living with regrets?
I decided to ask him this question: "Matt, if papa died today, what would you remember most about us?" I asked him the same question about mama too.
What he said humbled and inspired me. It wasn't about earning money or buying him toys. It isn't even the holidays we have been on together. It isn't any of things we work so hard for that stays in a child's memory of you.
For papa, he said he would remember the times I was with him in his bedroom playing together. He would also remember the times we went on supply runs/running errands together.
For mama, he said he would remember her preparing his learning materials and teaching him how to do his favourite worksheets. (Yes, he asks for worksheets!)
I'm humbled because it is so easy to lose direction and focus. It is so easy to be bogged down by work, finances, the daily grind and storms that life throws at you. At the end of the day, it is that human connection we have with our children that they remember.
Some people say...the things people remember about you are those that matter most to them. What would your child remember about you?
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Vincent & Debra Kwan, Founders of Hiro & Jack and stay-at-home parents with the odd life.