3 LESSONS ON DEVELOPING YOUR CHILD'S PASSION AND POTENTIAL
It breaks my heart to hear children tell me they only study and go to school. Children only get to be children once in their lives. Being a stay home dad, I am blessed with A LOT of time with my children. One of the things closest to my heart is to grow my child's passion with all the time I am blessed with. Here are 3 key lessons I've learnt...
LESSON 1: KIDS TAKE AFTER THEIR PARENTS
When Matthias was about 10 months old, I gave him my football so he could just throw it and play with it. Little did I know that it would develop into a full blown craze and passion. I guess this is partly because he watched me play Fifa on the Xbox or watch the BPL on weekends. So parents, bear in mind, if we are glued to our phones, our children are very likely to follow suit.
LESSON 2 IT TAKES MORE THAN SENDING THEM TO CLASS
It is easy to identify our children's interests but not easy to nurture it. It is also easy to pay for classes and let the coach/teacher do the job. For any interest to develop into a passion, the home must be a nurturing place and the parents must be involved.
I make it a point to play football with him at home almost every other day and take him to the school field near our house for weekly training. I show him amazing goals and great team work shown in match highlights. I drill him on footwork and have fun together. It takes sacrifice to nurture a child. I've realised how easy it is to kill off his passion and simply make excuses i.e (The weather is too hot, it is my only day to sleep in, I'm too tired.....) When we put in effort, our children will also learn discipline, not to give up easily and make excuses.
Our involvement will encourage them greatly. It makes them want to try. It makes them want to become better and do people around them proud.
LESSON 3: LET THEM BE BORED AND SELF-DISCOVER
Give your children time to be BORED and let them overcome boredom themselves. (without the iPad!) This lets them SELF-DISCOVER and find their own passion. If we are sending them to class after class, it becomes a schedule to follow and another piece homework to be completed. We give Matthias time to read and play with his assortment of toys ranging from musical instruments to plastic animals and toy kitchen sets. He plays with them all but his football and goal post are his ultimate favourites. Most of the time, he chooses to play football, imagine himself scoring, celebrating wildly and remember all the players names.
When the child discovers his/her own love, you will be screaming at them to stop instead of forcing them to practice/do homework or go for training.
So let's put away our phones, get involved and give our children time for self-discovery today!
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Vincent & Debra Kwan, Founders of Hiro & Jack and stay-at-home parents with the odd life.