Whoever told you the terrible-twos are horrible, was wrong.
My 3 year old is going through his worst stage yet and I might just call it the “t-rex threes”. He somehow thinks he can rule over everyone just by saying “no!” to everything an adult would say. He’s at the stage where every single boundary is being tested and it’s driving me crazy.
At 2, he happily ate whatever we fed him. At 3, he would just scoop bits of white rice and leave the rest of the dishes aside. That is, unless we feed him the entire meal.
At 2, he would quietly watch tv while I took a shower. At 3, he would watch tv right till the bathroom door closes. Then he’d run around the house singing loudly some made-up song and that would wake his sister from her nap.
At 2, he would let us dress him and wear his shoes. At 3, he insists on doing everything on his own, 50x slower, and getting it done all wrong anyway. This explains why we’re late for every appointment.
At 2, he would obediently sit on the potty to pee. At 3, having graduated to the big toilet seat, he would rather pee in his diaper, or if he does get onto the toilet seat, the pee would be everywhere but in the loo.
The husband and I have tried every method possible to have him listen to house rules:
Time outs don’t work.
Restraining him doesn’t work.
Merit/Reward system doesnt work.
Demerit system doesnt work.
Praise works for a brief period.
Punishment works for a brief period.
I’ve reached a point I have given up doing stuff to get him to listen. I’m going to do nothing. I’m going to let this overly independent 3 year old do everything by himself and watch him struggle till he realises he needs to follow rules and he needs to obey an adult.
I started yesterday afternoon. He couldn’t put on his pants after his trip to the loo. He struggled for 20mins before succeeding with a new pair he took from his cupboard. I wish I there was an easier way to find out what’s going on in his head!
In other news, my 4month old had her first encounter with a Lion Dance troupe this afternoon while we were having lunch. I’ll save this story for the next post!
Vincent & Debra Kwan, Founders of Hiro & Jack and stay-at-home parents with the odd life.